I got spanked by my parents, and I got paddled in school..And I had it coming every time! How did it affect me? Well, it taught me that there's going to be consequences for behaving badly. In hindsight, I actually got away with a lot more meanness than I ever was punished for.. My wife is a retired teacher and she never paddled a kid, she isn't the paddling type..But they weren't allowed to anyhoo, and would have been fired for doing so. They would have probably been sued by parents as well. She had some real horror stories too. Including having a fourth grader threaten to bring a gun to school and shoot her, the kid's mom was a total PITA for both her and the school as well..Yeah, a glaring example of the end result of being raised with no consequences for bad behaviour..And bad parenting!
I've known of a lot of bad-ass children where attempting to calm them with 'voice and reason' would've proved an impossible feat... until a swift slap/whip of the belt set them straight. You cannot convince me otherwise; don't even waste your time trying with so-called 'End Corporal Punishment' internet studies.
The guy I work with has a daughter who is a teacher in Cleveland. A six year old black girl just told her she was going to call her mom and have her kill her. This was after the girl had hit and kicked the teacher. I dont believe she got paddled.
We need to start beating the parents that neglect their kids to the point that getting into trouble is the only way they can get any attention.
I think the point is to make sure that, whatever you do, you are keeping the child's best interest at heart. If you follow that, no spanking will be abusive. If a kid is reaching towards a hot burning frying pan, do you smack that hand away, or do you say, no, that might hurt their little hand? I guess getting burned is the worse of the 2 "evils", right? That doesn't mean that, now that you smacked the kid's hand, you keep on going, aiming for the face, or whatever - there is a difference... Some people can be just abusive verbally, by yelling things "out of anger". I've heard it said, that you should always do it for "their best interest, not yours". So many people do use it to relieve their own anger & lash out wrongfully on their kids. You didn't spank them, but they spend the rest of their life seeing a shrink because of the mental scars left behind...
Yeah he would have liked to have planted one on me. I zipped into the left at the lights to beat the car at the lights, and low and behold there was a cop a couple of cars behind in an unmarked car . I got a fine, but the adrenaline rush was worth it.
