WTF do I do ? - Page 2

Jenovaslegacy · 10-29-2009, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Jesstaa

My whole life has basically been an uber fuckup, when I was little, I was the most unpopular kid ever, no friends at all, just had my mum,didn't even really have metal then. Then I grew up a bit, still had to deal with so much shit, but I had metal, which made me feel better. Then I come to now, high school, I figure shit out for myself and do what I want, but I can never think on a level other people can understand, it always makes sense in my head, but then I say it and I sound like a fucking dumbass, then i can't do anything in a work like enviroment, if somebody gives me a task, I'll either hate it, find it too easy to bother with, get annoyed or get really confused, and I can't help it, that's the way my mind works, and everyones telling me I just gotta try. But I am trying. Then if I fuck up (Like I always do) I try and explain myself, and just make shit worse, and I can't fucking help it.

So basically, I've fucked everything in my life up, I can't even play guitar properly, never written anything that's sounded half decent and all my friends are just those stupid enough to be fooled into thinking I'm cool.

Somebody fucking help me, I don't like where I'm going

Mate it sounds like you're just having a mega confidence downturn, like everyones said the weed probably doesn't help that, but then as long as you don't end up doing it 24/7 I can't see how a little smoke from time to time is gonna hurt. Moderations the key my friend. I hang out with my band, make a fucking racket and then go out and get nuclear wrecked, but I always make sure I square my shit away before Monday comes round again. Moderation, moderation, moderation.

In terms of guitar, I get a lot of sideways looks for the way I play guitar (open C#), people can't figure it out and some people critiscise, but what the fuck. I know I'm not Slash, but what I do pleases me and more importantly, fits in with the tone of our band. Other people love our music, so why should I give a fuck what the guitar nazis think. My point is that as long as what you're doing with guitar pleases you and is helping you move towards your musical goals, then fuck what anybody else thinks or says, and the ID they rode in on. Guitar is about expression, express yourself with it, don't make it all about impressing people.

As for girls, I guarantee you, thats in the post bro. Like someone above said, you'll mess abotu and have some shit experiences for a little while (my first time was a fucking nigthmare!), then you'll suddenly turn a certain age and a turbo will go off and you won't be able to stop getting chicks. I'm sure most here would agree that being a guitarist in a band never hurts those particular prospects, so theres another reason to keep at it bro!

Basically you sound like you're down on your confidence and down on your luck a bit fella, which is cool, we all go there sometimes. But at the end of the day, life is just a series of peaks and troughs, sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down. Taking the kicks when you're down is just as much of a part of it as enjoying the highs when your lucks in bro. Its about how you deal with it when it happens. Just keep at it man, if you wanna add me and shoot the shit anytime, be my guest.

Procter2812 · 10-29-2009, 08:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jenovaslegacy

. I hang out with my band, make a fucking racket and then go out and get nuclear wrecked, but I always make sure I square my shit away before Monday comes round again. Moderation, moderation, moderation.

.

Us Brits are all the same... haha

All this advice from these guys is real good.. listen to it. Its coming from people who have all been there.

Alex

Frankie · 10-29-2009, 12:24 PM

Nuclear wrecked! I love it!

LesPaulopolis · 10-29-2009, 01:34 PM

Stay in school dude! Education is the #1 way to improve your life. We all feel like we 'know it all' and are on 'another level' than the regular joes who seem so blissfully ignorant, but just like how you now know a lot about amps compared to yourself one year ago, there's a lot of useful info to absorb and put to use in the workplace/life. People don't pay shit for 'street smarts'.

If you can afford it, after you graduate seriously consider a Univ. or College.

StootMonster · 10-30-2009, 01:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jesstaa

My whole life has basically been an uber fuckup, when I was little, I was the most unpopular kid ever, no friends at all, just had my mum,didn't even really have metal then. Then I grew up a bit, still had to deal with so much shit, but I had metal, which made me feel better. Then I come to now, high school, I figure shit out for myself and do what I want, but I can never think on a level other people can understand, it always makes sense in my head, but then I say it and I sound like a fucking dumbass, then i can't do anything in a work like enviroment, if somebody gives me a task, I'll either hate it, find it too easy to bother with, get annoyed or get really confused, and I can't help it, that's the way my mind works, and everyones telling me I just gotta try. But I am trying. Then if I fuck up (Like I always do) I try and explain myself, and just make shit worse, and I can't fucking help it.

So basically, I've fucked everything in my life up, I can't even play guitar properly, never written anything that's sounded half decent and all my friends are just those stupid enough to be fooled into thinking I'm cool.

Somebody fucking help me, I don't like where I'm going

Hey Man, when I was 15, I had a face full of pimples and about 3 friends. I hated to even look in the mirror. I had so much crap to be depressed about. Even though I wasn't the greatest guitar player, I still loved to play, and I got a lot of my agressions out that way. And I made it through. Now all the problems I had back then seem laughable to me.

I'm a decorated Combat Veteran, I have 5 sons, A great wife who loves me more than anything (which is something not a lot of people can say) a few really nice geetars, apparantly I have a sweet vintage Fender amp(just found out here on the forum)... you get my drift?

You can only change what's in front of you, bro. You'll never be able to "re-invent" yourself into something cool. It's all about 2 things: Perseverance and Contentment. If you can use both of those in your life, you'll be straight and you're confidence will rise.

rockinr0ll · 10-30-2009, 04:34 PM

Jesstaa as far as depression and the feeling of hopelessness you could always consent to medication... If you are in a real bind prescription drugs can give you a boost and what not. Don't think it will solve the problem but the right meds WILL help you feel a bit better. As far as guitar goes that is suppose to help you forget about all the trouble in your life, that's what it does for me anyways. At the end of the day we all should be living a happy a life. Don't think that you are the only one going through this, everyone has their days. Think about the people in Afghanistan and Iraq who are under a lot of pressure, things like this will make you feel a little bit more great-full. Good luck.

rockinr0ll · 10-30-2009, 04:36 PM

+1

bro blue · 10-30-2009, 04:39 PM

Grow up - and I don't mean that as an insult, slap in the face, or negative way at all. A lot of people say your teen years are supposed to be good ones. They are not for a lot of people. You'll get older, get out, meet other people more like you, and make your own decisions.

Until then, play their games, play your guitar, and know it will get better.

Mike_j · 11-04-2009, 03:41 AM

Mate,
I think everyone that posted back is offering you up some good advice. Shows you have some good support. Very cool.
Personally, I think your should try and channel your frustrations into your music. You've got some great gear (better than the shit I had when I was 15). Get your band going, focus, play hard and live for it. Don't worry about what your Mum says about it. Parents know shit about music (no disrespect to old rockers intended here).
Being 15 can be frustrating but before you know it you'll be an old fucker like a lot of us older blokes here. Someone said something about things taking off when you hit your 20's-totally agree.
Hang in there mate and go for it.
M.
PS-You live in the best state in the best country in the world. This is a good place to get shit done i.e. art, music, best looking chicks etc etc.

Apula Mawanga · 11-04-2009, 05:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bro blue

A lot of people say your teen years are supposed to be good ones.

I never got what people who say that were talking about Being a teen sucks

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mike_j

PS-You live in the best state in the best country in the world. This is a good place to get shit done i.e. art, music, best looking chicks etc etc.

I agree

DC135er · 11-05-2009, 01:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jesstaa

My whole life has basically been an uber fuckup, when I was little, I was the most unpopular kid ever, no friends at all, just had my mum,didn't even really have metal then. Then I grew up a bit, still had to deal with so much shit, but I had metal, which made me feel better. Then I come to now, high school, I figure shit out for myself and do what I want, but I can never think on a level other people can understand, it always makes sense in my head, but then I say it and I sound like a fucking dumbass, then i can't do anything in a work like enviroment, if somebody gives me a task, I'll either hate it, find it too easy to bother with, get annoyed or get really confused, and I can't help it, that's the way my mind works, and everyones telling me I just gotta try. But I am trying. Then if I fuck up (Like I always do) I try and explain myself, and just make shit worse, and I can't fucking help it.

So basically, I've fucked everything in my life up, I can't even play guitar properly, never written anything that's sounded half decent and all my friends are just those stupid enough to be fooled into thinking I'm cool.

Somebody fucking help me, I don't like where I'm going

Well, GOOD NEWS, you're 15 so you can't screw up anything too much...yet.

Now as far as this statement is concerned "but I can never think on a level other people can understand, it always makes sense in my head, but then I say it and I sound like a fucking dumbass, then i can't do anything in a work like enviroment, if somebody gives me a task, I'll either hate it, find it too easy to bother with, get annoyed or get really confused, and I can't help it, that's the way my mind works, and everyones telling me I just gotta try".

It may be that your mind is much more abstract than everyone else's.

Dude, I can't believe you're only 15. You would make a fantastic writer. What gets conjured up in your mind, you know, that which "makes you sound like a dumbass", was extremely well articulated on this page. I'm convinced what you need is a purpose in your life and I believe you have a God given talent for writing. So get to it, man. You can start with letters to the editor regarding virtually anything. You'll need a little help with punctuation so if you have a journalism class, join it. Contact some of your favorite mags and ask them if you can submit some articles for their consideration. Don't expect too much at first but there are loads of publications, hopefully some which you are thoroughly familiar with, that would love to hear from you... ESPECIALLY around publishing time. You can probably have your teachers proof-read them for you. When your teachers see stuff like that, it's amazing how the grades seem to rise.

Remember this also, today's trials, tribulations and setbacks are tomorrows "good ole days". Rock On Jessta

superimposedmedia · 11-06-2009, 12:16 PM

As stated before, these are some really good suggestions. Your possibilities are endless right now and it can get confusing as to where you should start. Truth is, you're at the beginning so pick some projects of interest and stick with them. I would love to be sixteen forever, but that's just me. Unfortunately, I'm well past sixteen now

10-29-2009, 12:24 PM	#33 (permalink)
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LesPaulopolis Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Minneapolis Posts: 250	Re: WTF do I do ? Stay in school dude! Education is the #1 way to improve your life. We all feel like we 'know it all' and are on 'another level' than the regular joes who seem so blissfully ignorant, but just like how you now know a lot about amps compared to yourself one year ago, there's a lot of useful info to absorb and put to use in the workplace/life. People don't pay shit for 'street smarts'. If you can afford it, after you graduate seriously consider a Univ. or College. __________________ '68 RI LP Custom JCM900 + EQ & Boost

10-30-2009, 04:34 PM	#36 (permalink)
rockinr0ll Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,340	Re: WTF do I do ? Jesstaa as far as depression and the feeling of hopelessness you could always consent to medication... If you are in a real bind prescription drugs can give you a boost and what not. Don't think it will solve the problem but the right meds WILL help you feel a bit better. As far as guitar goes that is suppose to help you forget about all the trouble in your life, that's what it does for me anyways. At the end of the day we all should be living a happy a life. Don't think that you are the only one going through this, everyone has their days. Think about the people in Afghanistan and Iraq who are under a lot of pressure, things like this will make you feel a little bit more great-full. Good luck.

10-30-2009, 04:36 PM	#37 (permalink)
rockinr0ll Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 1,340	Re: WTF do I do ? +1

10-30-2009, 04:39 PM	#38 (permalink)
bro blue Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Southern USA Posts: 112	Re: WTF do I do ? Grow up - and I don't mean that as an insult, slap in the face, or negative way at all. A lot of people say your teen years are supposed to be good ones. They are not for a lot of people. You'll get older, get out, meet other people more like you, and make your own decisions. Until then, play their games, play your guitar, and know it will get better.

11-04-2009, 03:41 AM	#39 (permalink)
Mike_j Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 126	Re: WTF do I do ? Mate, I think everyone that posted back is offering you up some good advice. Shows you have some good support. Very cool. Personally, I think your should try and channel your frustrations into your music. You've got some great gear (better than the shit I had when I was 15). Get your band going, focus, play hard and live for it. Don't worry about what your Mum says about it. Parents know shit about music (no disrespect to old rockers intended here). Being 15 can be frustrating but before you know it you'll be an old fucker like a lot of us older blokes here. Someone said something about things taking off when you hit your 20's-totally agree. Hang in there mate and go for it. M. PS-You live in the best state in the best country in the world. This is a good place to get shit done i.e. art, music, best looking chicks etc etc. __________________ "...the world is your oyster but your future's a clam..."

11-06-2009, 12:16 PM	#42 (permalink)
superimposedmedia Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Louisiana Posts: 119	Re: WTF do I do ? As stated before, these are some really good suggestions. Your possibilities are endless right now and it can get confusing as to where you should start. Truth is, you're at the beginning so pick some projects of interest and stick with them. I would love to be sixteen forever, but that's just me. Unfortunately, I'm well past sixteen now __________________ Listen to Bee Sting - myspace.com/superimposedmedia

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